(Things to bear in mind: he won't have to always go to bed alone, he'll be spending probably at least the next decade sharing his room with at least one brother, so this is a temporary problem until Sam is old enough to safely share a room. Also, any routine that works now will be horribly disrupted by a house move in a few months time, when I will go back to co-sleeping with him to help with the trauma that follows another house move.)
I am really interested in opinions regardless of whether we agree on sleep issues and whether you have children or not.
Your 3 yr old is not able to get to sleep one night, after a fairly successful few months of being able to fall asleep on his own with music and a lighted mobile. (But a few times/wk he falls asleep with you lying beside him, and he likes that better.)
You lose sight of him on the video monitor, but he is quiet. You go into the room and he is completely enveloped in a blanket in the middle of the bed. The blanket is moving up and down like he is panting. This continues for a few minutes - he doesn't appear to know you are there. Eventually you lift the blanket and are greeted with surprise and happiness to see you. He is alert, surrounded by stuffed animals, and he says,
"Momma! I was hiding with all my animals from the monster. We are in a rock. The monster can't get us! I was scared. Scared of the monster, so I was hiding."
Poll #1415737 overprotective mom or negligent mom?
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What do you do?
Admonish him for playing instead of lying down to sleep. Dismantle the cave and lay him back down on the pillows.
Feed into the fantasy by talking with him about the monster and his cave in order to encourage his use of fantasy play to help him cope with scary situations.
Feel like a terrible parent for leaving him alone to be scared of monsters.
How do you end the interaction?
Say goodnight and leave him alone again with the cave.
Tuck him into bed, say goodnight and leave him alone again, no cave.
Tuck him into bed, say goodnight and leave him alone again, with a warning not to rebuild the cave because it is sleepy time not play time.
Stay with him until he falls asleep.
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